When it comes to dating online, the first hurdle is to put a profile together that not only accurately describes you as a person, but also what it is that you are seeking. It will come in handy later when you get bombarded with invitations to chat or email. Believe me, this will happen.
Most people don’t like the process of creating a decent profile and tend to spend only minimal effort on the task. While it is not advised that you wait to post anything until you think it’s perfect, at the same time throwing something up there just to get it over with is not the best either.
So, here are some things to consider as you are putting your profile together.
1. Determine Why You Are Searching for a Foreign Partner. Try to understand clearly what you want from your relationship with a Russian woman. What are you looking for in a foreign woman that is different from what you can find in your own community or country? Just start by listing some things that are generally important, then move on to some specifics.
Rank into some type of priority list and choose the main criteria you will use to sort through profiles. Is it her profession? Competency with your language? Age? Children? Appearance? Physical build? Education levels? What? Now try to look at this image as a whole and think if there are such women at all. Can these qualities be together in one person? Or are they incompatible?
To a large extent, your age will suggest certain ‘must haves’ and ‘not haves’ of your partner. If you are a midlife man, for example, then you may be looking for someone who has adult children. So, she’s likely in her forties at minimum.
2. Consider What this Woman Would Want from You. Imagine the portrait of “your” woman. Where and how does she live, what is her occupation, her lifestyle and what might she interested in. As you browse women’s profiles, you get a pretty good sense of what the women you’re interested in are looking for.
Are you ready to satisfy her requirements? You’re not the only one choosing here. She is as well. There is a common perception among western men that by simply helping a woman move to a better country is enough to get your woman. There are Ukrainian and Russian women who will be motivated by this, but do you want to have such a wife? If you see that your requirements are unrealistic, return to the first point and rework it.
3. Create a Virtual Image of Yourself. People we communicate on a site have created a projection of themselves comprised of images, words, and narrative. It’s a message to all viewers. I have a good sense of humor, I’m successful, I’m mature and wise, I’m sensual, are all messages we could send. It will speak to a certain audience.
So, what image are you trying to project? Here are some more questions to ponder. Is it sensitive and spontaneous? Energetic and playful? Serious and orderly? Intellectual and romantic? When you create your image, show yourself as a person of integrity. Pictures and narrative should send the same message.
In the end, your goal in a profile is not to provide a dissertation of everything there is to know about you. You want to reserve some of your ‘good stuff’ for the email and chat sessions, which will keep the interest high. However, the profile is to highlight important and true aspects of who you are and what you are looking for. Consider it your marketing piece that will draw the appropriate women to want to engage in dialog with you!
4. Display Interest and Initiative. There are thousands of profiles online, but waiting for the girl who answers your certain criteria can take years. Moreover, even the one satisfying all your requirements can fail other criteria, such as seriousness, honesty etc. The dating sites’ databases are replenished each day. If you like a Russian or Ukrainian girl, put your profile in front of them with an inviting letter (see the article Writing that First Letter).
5. Continue to Revise and Refresh Your Profile. The search for your second half is a serious and goal-oriented work. The internet is not a lottery where everyone wins or a Wonderland where all wishes come true. It does allow you to enlarge your pool of possibilities.
In a world where news is news for a brief moment, we easily become bored with anything that hasn’t refreshed in the past five minutes. Our profile can become stale and lose its ability to attract attention. Upgrade photos frequently and revise your narrative as well in order to keep a fresh look out there.
Look, finding a great partner is work and it will likely take persistence. It is no less so when looking at women from overseas. In fact, it may take more effort and resources to actually succeed.
However, if you persist and work at it, the potential reward is fantastic as well!